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Men Love To CHASE, SPOIL, & COMMIT To Women in THIS Energy (by former single mom x4) #feminineenergy
Mia Adora🌹💍Feminine Energy
Overview
This video explains how women can attract men who want to chase, spoil, and commit to them by embodying a specific feminine energy. It emphasizes the importance of detachment, healing past traumas and nervous system patterns, and employing strategic dating approaches. The speakers, a couple who specialize in relationship coaching, share insights from both male and female perspectives, highlighting that men are wired to pursue and win, and that women can leverage this by not over-pursuing themselves. They advocate for a shift from "nice girl" energy to a more empowered, receiving feminine energy, supported by practical strategies for vetting men and maintaining healthy relationship dynamics.
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Chapters
- Men are naturally inclined to chase, spoil, and commit to women who embody a specific detached feminine energy.
- This energy activates the masculine desire to pursue and invest in a relationship.
- The video aims to teach women how to cultivate this energy to attract committed partners.
- The speakers share their expertise, having helped thousands of women achieve relationship success.
Understanding and embodying this specific feminine energy is crucial for women seeking committed, loving relationships, as it directly influences how men perceive and engage with them.
The speaker, Coach Tasha, shares her personal transformation from a single mom of four to attracting her husband, who spoils her daily, as an example of this principle in action.
- Men need to be significantly more invested in a woman than she is in him, especially in the initial stages, to foster commitment.
- The pursuit is what drives a man's desire and love; if a woman pursues too much, it diminishes the challenge and his motivation.
- Men are wired to 'game' relationships, seeking dopamine hits from the effort they put into pursuing a partner.
- Allowing a man to pursue creates a sense of accomplishment and deepens his love and commitment.
This chapter explains the fundamental male psychology of pursuit, which is essential for women to understand to avoid inadvertently pushing potential partners away by taking on the 'hunter' role.
The speaker uses the analogy of hunting season, explaining that men view pursuing a partner like a sport or a challenge that provides a dopamine hit, which is crucial for their engagement and love.
- Unhealed childhood traumas and nervous system patterns often lead women to attract inconsistent or chaotic relationships.
- Anxious or avoidant attachment styles, stemming from past experiences, cause women to choose partners based on subconscious programming rather than logic.
- Intense initial connections are often chemical reactions from the brain, not necessarily soulmate connections, if they stem from unhealed wounds.
- Regulating the nervous system and healing attachment styles are prerequisites for attracting healthy, committed partners.
Understanding and addressing one's own unhealed patterns is critical because these subconscious programs dictate relationship choices and can sabotage the attraction of a healthy, committed partner.
The speaker explains that if a woman finds herself consistently falling hard for men before they fall for her, or if she's attracted to inconsistent partners, it's a sign of an unhealed nervous system.
- Detachment means being open to receiving but not attached to a specific outcome or person.
- It is not about being cold or playing games, but about self-preservation and emotional regulation.
- Anxiously attached women, who over-pursue or obsess, repel healthy masculine energy.
- A healed nervous system is the foundation for true detachment, allowing women to enjoy dating without heartbreak.
Staying detached is a powerful strategy that keeps women regulated, prevents them from self-abandoning, and makes them more attractive to healthy masculine partners.
The speaker contrasts 'chasing' (e.g., letting a man sleep with you before marriage, constant texting) with healthy detachment, which involves being available but not overly invested or anxious about the man's actions.
- The speaker (Coach Tasha) initially hooked up with her now-husband, but he began to pull back.
- She chose to detach instead of letting the situation drag on, which prompted him to reflect on his desires.
- Her detachment and established boundaries (e.g., not sleeping together after the initial encounter) made him realize her value and commitment to herself.
- This led to a faster timeline for engagement and marriage (8-11 months).
This personal anecdote demonstrates the practical power of detachment and boundaries in accelerating a man's commitment and solidifying a relationship's progression towards marriage.
After hooking up with Coach B, Coach Tasha detached when he started pulling back. This led him to re-evaluate his desire to be with her, ultimately prompting him to pursue marriage.
- Women hold immense power to influence the masculine energy; the feminine paces the relationship.
- Low boundaries and being in 'girlfriend' or 'situationship' energy prevent men from stepping up, spoiling, or committing.
- Attracting a committed partner requires strategy and skills, not just love or passion.
- Effective strategy includes knowing how to communicate, date, maintain attraction, and handle challenging conversations.
Women need to understand their inherent power and adopt strategic approaches to dating and relationships, as passive or unskillful methods often lead to undesirable outcomes like situationships.
The speaker compares needing strategy in relationships to needing strategy in business; passion alone isn't enough for success, just as love alone isn't enough for a successful, committed relationship.
- Healthy men are attracted to women who are detached and in their feminine energy, not those who are guarded or scanning for danger.
- Unhealthy men seek access and assets, and manipulate by making women feel guilty when they say no.
- Women are often not taught how to properly vet men, leading them to rely on intuition which can be clouded by unhealed patterns.
- A key strategy is to observe how a man moves and whether he shows signs of health, rather than focusing on potential threats.
Learning to vet men effectively protects women from wasting time with unhealthy individuals and builds confidence, allowing them to relax into their feminine energy and attract higher-quality partners.
A woman who recently joined the program noticed that healthy men she's now talking to don't care about her income, a sign that she's attracting a different caliber of partner.
- Provider energy in men goes beyond finances; it's about leadership, protection, and making the woman feel secure.
- A healthy masculine provider won't pay all a woman's bills during the dating phase; he invests strategically as the relationship progresses.
- Women who over-give or rescue men often attract partners who become comfortable receiving, hindering their masculine development and commitment.
- Associating love with receiving, rather than giving, is crucial for attracting men who want to provide.
Understanding the true nature of provider energy helps women avoid attracting men who exploit their generosity and instead attract partners who are genuinely motivated to lead and provide within a committed relationship.
If a man asks for money or significant financial help early in dating, it's a red flag; a healthy provider will pay for dates and invest as the relationship deepens, but won't take over all financial responsibilities prematurely.
Key takeaways
- Men are biologically wired to pursue and win, making the woman's detached feminine energy a powerful catalyst for his commitment.
- Healing past traumas and nervous system patterns is essential for breaking cycles of attracting unhealthy relationships.
- Detachment in dating means not being attached to the outcome, which allows for emotional regulation and prevents self-abandonment.
- Strategic dating skills, including how to communicate and vet men, are as important as love and passion for relationship success.
- Women possess significant influence over masculine energy; embodying a receiving feminine energy fosters attraction and commitment.
- Healthy masculine providers are attracted to women who are in their feminine receiving energy and do not over-give or rescue them.
- Focusing on self-healing and embodying authentic feminine energy naturally attracts higher-quality suitors.
Key terms
Feminine EnergyMasculine EnergyDetachmentNervous System RegulationAttachment StylesPursuitProvider EnergyVetting MenSituationshipPolarity
Test your understanding
- How does a man's desire to pursue impact his commitment to a woman, and what role does the woman's energy play in this?
- What are the signs of an unhealed nervous system in dating, and how can a woman begin to address these patterns?
- Explain the concept of 'detachment' in dating and why it is crucial for attracting a committed partner.
- What is the difference between 'provider energy' and simply providing financial support, and how does this distinction affect relationship dynamics?
- Why is strategic dating necessary, and what are some key skills women need to develop to navigate the dating process effectively?