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If He Pulls Away - DO THIS! (He’ll CHASE Fast!) by former single mom x4 #feminineenergy #dating
Mia Adora🌹💍Feminine Energy
Overview
This video discusses why men pull away in relationships, often referred to as 'breadcrumbing' or 'avoidance.' The hosts, Tash and Coach B, share insights from their personal experiences and coaching expertise to help women understand and navigate these dynamics. They explain the psychological and neurological reasons behind this behavior, emphasizing the role of intermittent reinforcement and dopamine addiction. The core message is that women can shift these patterns by focusing on their own healing, nervous system regulation, and developing feminine energy strategies, rather than chasing or trying to fix the man. The video promotes self-growth and skill-building as the key to attracting a healthy, committed masculine partner.
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Chapters
- Men sometimes pull away or 'breadcrumb' women, giving just enough attention to keep them hooked without full commitment.
- This behavior can stem from men not realizing their patterns or intentionally using it to gauge a woman's response.
- Women often panic and chase when a man pulls away, which can reinforce his avoidant behavior.
- The hosts, Tash (former single mom) and Coach B (former bachelor), specialize in helping women navigate these dating challenges.
Understanding why men pull away is crucial for women to avoid falling into cycles of anxiety and chasing, and to instead focus on effective strategies for building secure relationships.
Coach B explains that he intentionally pulled away in past relationships as a way to test a woman's response and see if she would chase him, thereby getting what he wanted.
- The 'addictiveness' of inconsistent attention is due to intermittent reinforcement, a psychological principle.
- When a man provides just enough attention to keep a woman engaged, her brain releases dopamine, creating a reward cycle.
- This dopamine loop can feel like a 'crack addiction,' leading to withdrawal symptoms (low motivation, depression) when the man withdraws.
- This cycle keeps women hooked, even when the man isn't fully committed or stepping up.
Recognizing the neurological basis of this attraction helps women understand why they feel compelled to stay in uncertain situations and empowers them to break free from the addictive cycle.
The hosts compare the feeling of being hooked by inconsistent texting or occasional meetups to a 'crack addiction' due to the dopamine release associated with intermittent rewards.
- Past traumas, especially from relationships, can be stored in a woman's nervous system, creating subconscious 'love blocks' and trust issues.
- Even if consciously wanting commitment, an unhealed nervous system may attract men who mirror these avoidant or unhealed patterns.
- When a man pulls away, a woman's triggered nervous system can lead to panic, chasing, or shutting down.
- Men also pull away due to their own unhealed issues or if they perceive the woman is not in a receptive state.
Understanding how past trauma affects the nervous system provides a deeper explanation for why women attract certain types of men and react in specific ways when faced with relationship challenges.
Tash explains that after her first marriage trauma, her nervous system remembered the hurt, leading her to attract men who would only offer partial commitment, keeping her hooked but not secure.
- Instead of chasing or panicking, the recommended strategy is to detach and go 'no contact' when a man pulls away or doesn't step up.
- No contact means completely cutting off access, not just for a few days, but for a significant period.
- This action forces the man to re-evaluate his behavior and decide if he truly wants to be with the woman.
- For the woman, no contact is an opportunity to heal, focus on herself, and avoid repeating patterns.
Implementing detachment and no contact shifts the power dynamic, allowing women to reclaim their energy and create space for a healthier relationship dynamic.
Tasha describes how she went no contact with Coach B when he wasn't stepping up, denying him access to her energy and time until he was ready to show up differently.
- Simply detaching or going no contact isn't enough; genuine healing of the nervous system and past traumas is essential.
- Women need to 'skill up' by learning effective communication strategies tailored for masculine energy men.
- This includes understanding how to maintain polarity and inspire masculine energy without nagging or trying to coach him.
- Attracting a healthy masculine partner requires the woman to become her energetic match through self-work.
Sustainable change comes from internal transformation (healing) combined with practical skills, enabling women to attract and maintain the kind of relationship they desire.
The hosts emphasize that even highly educated or successful women may lack the specific communication skills needed to interact effectively with masculine energy men, leading to patterns of men pulling away.
- A healthy masculine man chases when he feels the woman's presence enhances his life and her absence creates a significant void.
- He is motivated by how he feels in her presence and what he is motivated to do because of her.
- The desire to 'keep her around' and integrate her (and potentially her family) into his future plans is a strong indicator.
- This drive comes from seeing her as a potential wife and fearing the regret of losing her.
This insight helps women understand what truly motivates a high-quality man to commit and invest, shifting focus from trying to 'make' him chase to embodying qualities that naturally inspire it.
Coach B explains that when he experienced the absence of Tash, he realized how much her presence positively impacted him and motivated him to plan a future with her, making him want to go 'all in'.
- Sharing your healing journey publicly can inadvertently signal to other men that you are seeking attention or are still unhealed.
- Women should focus on their internal healing and skill development privately, rather than broadcasting their struggles.
- Fear of 'overachieving' or 'over-performing' can sabotage success in relationships and finances; this fear needs to be healed.
- A healthy masculine man is not intimidated by a woman's beauty or success; rather, it can awaken his provider energy.
Understanding these pitfalls helps women protect their energy, focus on genuine self-improvement, and avoid self-sabotage that can hinder their progress in attracting a fulfilling relationship.
The hosts advise against sharing detailed stories of relationship struggles online, as this can attract men who are looking to exploit vulnerability rather than build a healthy connection.
Key takeaways
- Men pull away due to their own unhealed issues or as a test, often driven by subconscious patterns and the desire for control.
- The addictive nature of inconsistent attention is linked to dopamine release and intermittent reinforcement, making it hard to break free.
- Past relationship traumas are stored in the nervous system, influencing who we attract and how we react to relationship challenges.
- Effective strategies for women include detaching, going no contact, and focusing on personal healing and skill development.
- True attraction and commitment from a healthy masculine man are inspired by a woman's feminine energy, her healing, and her ability to make him feel needed and valued.
- Focusing on self-improvement, communication skills, and nervous system regulation is key to attracting a partner who is ready for a committed relationship.
- A woman's energy and internal state directly influence the type of man she attracts; healing and skilling up lead to attracting higher-quality partners.
Key terms
BreadcrumbingPulling awayAvoidant behaviorMasculine energyFeminine energyNervous systemIntermittent reinforcementDopamineTraumaNo contactDetachmentPolaritySituationshipEnergetic match
Test your understanding
- What is intermittent reinforcement, and how does it contribute to the addictive nature of certain relationship dynamics?
- How can past relationship traumas stored in the nervous system influence the types of partners a woman attracts?
- What are the key differences between simply detaching and actively engaging in personal healing and skill-building?
- Why is it important for women to focus on their own energy and communication skills rather than trying to 'fix' or change the man who is pulling away?
- How does a woman's energetic state and internal healing process directly impact the masculine energy man she attracts and his behavior towards her?