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If He Pulls Away - DO THIS (He’ll Come Back Different!) by former single mom x4 #feminineenergy
Mia Adora🌹💍Feminine Energy
Overview
This video focuses on how women can navigate situations where men pull away in dating and relationships. It emphasizes understanding masculine and feminine dynamics, the science of attachment, and the importance of self-healing and setting boundaries. The speakers, Coach B and Tash, share personal experiences and coaching insights to help women attract and maintain healthy, committed relationships by shifting their energy, avoiding common pitfalls like over-giving or playing games, and focusing on their own growth rather than chasing men. The core message is that true connection and commitment come from a woman's secure inner state and her ability to embody her feminine energy effectively.
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Chapters
- Men's attachment to women is not solely based on time spent together; it's about how they feel in a woman's presence and absence.
- Men can compartmentalize, meaning spending time with a woman can be a 'task' rather than a sign of deep emotional investment.
- When men pull away, it's often a sign they are not ready for commitment or are processing their own readiness, not necessarily a rejection of the woman.
- Women often misinterpret consistent time spent or even introductions to family as a sign of a man falling in love, leading to disappointment when he pulls back.
Understanding how men form attachments and why they might pull away is crucial for women to avoid misinterpreting signals and to respond effectively, rather than reactively, in relationships.
A man might spend months or years with a woman, introduce her to his family, and do all the things that indicate a serious relationship, yet still disappear because that consistent presence alone doesn't create deep commitment for him.
- A man can love a woman and be in love with her, but this does not automatically translate to a desire for marriage or commitment.
- Commitment is a decision, and men will initiate marriage when they are ready, not because a woman pressures them or because of love alone.
- Some men may stay in relationships out of a desire not to hurt the woman, even if they have no intention of marrying her.
- Love alone is not enough to cause a man to want to marry; it requires him to be ready and to initiate the commitment.
This distinction helps women understand that a man's expressions of love are not always a direct path to marriage and that they should look for signs of readiness for commitment rather than solely relying on declarations of love.
A man might tell a woman he loves her, live with her, or even have a child with her, but still not propose marriage because love, in itself, doesn't compel him to make that ultimate commitment.
- When a man pulls away, the recommended action is to detach and focus on oneself, rather than chasing or trying to fix him.
- Detachment means not overthinking about the man, working on oneself, and enjoying one's own life, rather than being distracted by the relationship status.
- If a man is avoidant, it may indicate something within the woman that she herself is avoiding, making self-reflection and healing essential.
- Focusing on one's own healing, nervous system regulation, and personal growth positions a woman to attract the right partner or for the right partner to return.
This approach empowers women by shifting their focus from the man's actions to their own internal state and growth, which is more likely to lead to a positive outcome in the relationship or attract a better match.
Instead of calling him, texting him, or worrying about why he's pulling away, the woman focuses on her own healing, nervous system work, and personal development, trusting that the right man will step up if he's meant to.
- Healthy relationships require boundaries and agreed-upon rules, which provide safety and structure, not restriction.
- Polarity, the dynamic between masculine and feminine energies, is essential for attraction and maintaining a man's pursuit.
- Women often fall into extremes: being an over-giver or being cold and jaded, neither of which attracts a healthy masculine man.
- A balanced feminine energy is warm and soft, with strong boundaries, allowing a man to feel activated in his masculine energy and want to provide and protect.
Understanding and implementing boundaries and polarity are key skills that help women create attraction, encourage masculine pursuit, and build a foundation for a committed, fulfilling relationship.
A woman with strong boundaries might politely decline an invitation that doesn't align with her standards, maintaining her feminine energy while signaling to the masculine that she values herself and expects respect.
- Situationships often arise when women are not clear about dating for marriage from the beginning, leading to emotional attachment without commitment.
- Nice girls often over-give and try to 'help' a man into commitment, which is not how men fall in love or commit.
- Men are not looking for 'provider' women or women they need to compete with; they seek relaxation and enjoyment in a partner's presence.
- To attract marriage, women need to embody a secure, feminine energy, have a dating strategy, and vet men for readiness and alignment with marriage goals.
This chapter addresses common traps women fall into, like the 'nice girl' syndrome or confusing friendship with romantic commitment, and provides a clear path toward attracting a partner who is ready for marriage.
A woman who is friends with benefits with a man, giving him a lot of her time and energy, might be heartbroken when he talks to other women and doesn't commit, because they never established a foundation for dating with the intention of marriage.
- When a man who has pulled away texts during no contact, it's often a 'temperature check' and not a sign of fundamental change.
- If a woman hasn't changed or healed during the no-contact period, responding to his text will likely lead to repeating the same patterns.
- True change in a woman's reality is reflected by her internal transformation and her ability to vet men and date differently.
- When a man returns, he needs to demonstrate his seriousness through actions, and the woman should remain detached but warm, allowing him to show his commitment.
This section provides practical advice on how to handle a man's return after pulling away, emphasizing that the woman's own transformation is the key to a different outcome, not just his reappearance.
After 30 days of no contact, a man texts 'Hey, I'm thinking about you.' If the woman has done inner work and changed her energy, she can respond with confidence, but if she hasn't changed, she risks falling back into old patterns.
- A disregulated nervous system, which doesn't feel safe, can subconsciously push away desired outcomes like healthy relationships.
- Healing the nervous system involves creating a sense of safety within oneself, which then allows for receiving what is being called in.
- Limiting beliefs, such as those tied to zodiac signs or past traumas (e.g., 'poor single mom'), prevent women from attracting their desired reality.
- It is a woman's divine birthright to have healthy, flourishing relationships, but this requires internal change, self-healing, and skill-building, not just waiting for external circumstances to change.
This chapter highlights the critical, often overlooked, role of nervous system regulation and overcoming limiting beliefs in achieving desired relationship outcomes, framing personal growth as a prerequisite for receiving love.
A woman who has experienced past relationship hurts might subconsciously attract men who are unavailable or toxic because her nervous system associates that pattern with 'safety' or familiarity, even if consciously she desires something different.
Key takeaways
- Men's commitment is a decision they initiate, not solely a result of love or time spent together.
- When a man pulls away, focus on your own healing and growth rather than chasing him; this detachment is key to attracting a better outcome.
- Healthy relationships are built on strong boundaries and polarity, not on being an over-giver or being overly competitive.
- Situationships occur when intentions aren't clear from the start; women should date with the intention of marriage and vet men accordingly.
- True change in your relationship reality comes from your internal transformation and embodying a secure, feminine energy.
- A regulated nervous system is essential for receiving the healthy relationships and life you desire.
- Letting go of limiting beliefs and past stories is crucial for aligning with your divine birthright of love and partnership.
Key terms
Feminine EnergyMasculine EnergyPolarityAttachment ScienceDetachmentSituationshipNervous System RegulationBoundariesVetting MenCommitment
Test your understanding
- How does a man's feeling in your presence and absence differ from simply spending time with you in terms of creating attachment?
- What is the fundamental difference between a man loving a woman and a man committing to marry her?
- Why is detachment and focusing on self-improvement the recommended response when a man pulls away, and what does true detachment entail?
- How do boundaries and polarity contribute to a healthy, attractive dynamic between masculine and feminine energies in a relationship?
- What are the common pitfalls women fall into that lead to situationships instead of committed relationships, and how can they be avoided?