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He Wants To Spoil & Marry You (STOP Doing THIS!) *by former single mom x4
Mia Adora🌹💍Feminine Energy
Overview
This video focuses on how women can attract a high-quality man who desires to spoil and marry them by understanding male psychology and adjusting their own behavior. It emphasizes that men are wired to be heroes and providers, but women often inadvertently block these desires through certain actions. The speakers, Coach B and Coach TSH (a former single mom of four), share insights from their experiences and coaching practice, outlining three key areas women need to stop doing: acting overly masculine and forceful, criticizing their partners, and exhibiting entitlement. They stress the importance of embodying feminine energy, setting boundaries, self-care, and understanding that attracting a committed partner is a skill that can be learned and applied.
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Chapters
- Men are inherently wired to feel like heroes and to provide and protect.
- They desire to spoil their partners and make them feel good, allowing them to relax.
- This desire is a natural part of their masculine energy and how they are built.
- A woman's behavior can either enable or block this desire by how she positions herself.
Understanding this core male motivation is crucial for women who want to be spoiled and cared for, as it explains why men act the way they do and what they are looking for in a partner.
Coach B's friends noticed a significant positive change in his behavior after he met his wife, highlighting how a woman can bring out a man's natural desire to be heroic and caring.
- Women often operate in their masculine energy, taking charge, making decisions, and being forceful in relationships.
- This 'doing' energy, common for business owners or leaders, can subconsciously turn men off.
- A healthy masculine man seeks a feminine counterpart, not another masculine energy.
- Relaxing into femininity and allowing the man to lead and feel like a man is key to his commitment.
By shifting from a dominant masculine role to a receptive feminine one, women create the space for men to step into their provider and protector roles, fostering a more balanced and committed relationship.
A woman who is a boss babe in her career might unconsciously bring that forceful, decision-making energy into her relationship, which can make a man feel like he's at work rather than in a partnership.
- Giving 'wife energy' (full commitment, intimacy, access) before a man has committed to marriage is a common mistake.
- This premature giving removes the man's incentive to pursue marriage, as he already has what he desires.
- Healthy boundaries are essential; men desire exclusivity and want to know they have earned access to your life.
- A woman's wholeness, independence, and continued pursuit by the man are attractive qualities.
Understanding when and how to offer commitment and intimacy is vital for relationship progression. Prematurely giving 'wife privileges' can stall or end a relationship before it reaches marriage.
Coach TSH did not sleep with Coach B when he came to Canada to date her, maintaining boundaries and ensuring he continued to pursue her, which demonstrated her value and commitment to marriage.
- Constant criticism, even when perceived as 'telling the truth' or being helpful, repels healthy masculine energy.
- Men who want marriage are not looking for someone to coach or critique them; they seek a partner, not a project.
- A lack of self-control in speech, leading to constant critique or complaining, signals a lack of feminine intelligence.
- Leading with academic or professional titles (e.g., MBA, PhD) in profiles can signal an overly critical or 'know-it-all' energy.
The way a woman communicates, especially her tone and intent when addressing her partner's actions or perceived flaws, significantly impacts his desire to commit and stay.
A woman complaining about a restaurant choice or critiquing how a man did a task (e.g., 'you should have done it this way') demonstrates a coaching/critiquing energy that turns men off.
- Entitlement, the belief that one is owed certain treatment or spoiling regardless of their own efforts, is a major deterrent.
- Men are attracted to women who have done internal and external work on themselves, not those who expect to be taken 'as is'.
- Taking care of one's body, appearance, and overall well-being is crucial for attracting a high-quality partner.
- A woman's value is not solely based on external achievements but on her embodied feminine energy and self-care.
Expecting to be spoiled without actively working on oneself creates a sense of entitlement that prevents a woman from attracting the kind of partner who will genuinely invest in her and her life.
A woman with children cannot expect a man to simply 'take her as she is' if she has not also focused on her own health, appearance, and personal growth, which makes her more attractive and a better partner.
- Attracting a high-quality man is a skill set that involves understanding masculine desires and embodying feminine energy.
- Feminine intelligence means training a man on how to treat you through subtle signals, not direct demands or entitlement.
- Women need to learn how to respond strategically in various dating scenarios, like handling text-based date invitations.
- Self-care, healing past traumas, and balancing hormones are foundational for embodying magnetic feminine energy.
Mastering these skills allows women to attract and maintain relationships with high-value men, leading to marriage and a 'princess treatment' lifestyle, rather than settling for less or experiencing repeated heartbreak.
When a man suggests a date via text without specific details, a woman with feminine intelligence might respond by saying, 'This sounds great. Looking forward to confirming plans when you call,' prompting him to use the phone and demonstrate more effort.
Key takeaways
- Men are naturally wired to be providers and heroes; women can foster this by embracing their feminine energy and allowing men to lead.
- Avoid giving 'wife energy' or full commitment too early in a relationship, as this can remove a man's motivation to pursue marriage.
- Criticism and a 'know-it-all' attitude are significant turn-offs for healthy masculine men; focus on constructive communication and self-control.
- Entitlement is unattractive; women must invest in their own well-being, appearance, and personal growth to become an attractive partner.
- Attracting a high-quality man is a skill that requires learning and applying principles of feminine intelligence and emotional regulation.
- Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial for demonstrating self-worth and guiding a man's behavior towards commitment.
- Self-care, including hormonal balance and nervous system regulation, is fundamental for women to feel good, attract healthy relationships, and have the energy to pursue their goals.
Key terms
Masculine EnergyFeminine EnergyHero's DesireWife EnergyBoundariesCriticismEntitlementPrincess TreatmentFeminine IntelligenceSelf-CareHormone BalanceNervous System Regulation
Test your understanding
- How does a man's desire to be a 'hero' influence his behavior in a relationship, and what can a woman do to foster this?
- What are the potential negative consequences of a woman consistently operating in her masculine energy within a romantic relationship?
- Why is it important for women to avoid giving 'wife energy' prematurely, and what are the implications for relationship progression?
- How can a woman communicate her needs and preferences to a partner without resorting to criticism or a controlling attitude?
- What role does self-care and personal development play in a woman's ability to attract a high-quality partner who desires marriage and spoiling her?