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Men Chase and Marry who *DON’T do this!* (by former single mom x4) #feminineenergy #dating
Mia Adora🌹💍
Overview
This video focuses on three key behaviors women should avoid if they want to attract a man who will chase and marry them. The speakers, Coach B and Tosh, emphasize that avoiding premature attachment, refraining from trying to convince a man to be consistent, and maintaining emotional regulation are crucial. They draw on their coaching experience with thousands of women, including single mothers, to highlight how these "don'ts" can lead to situationships or prevent long-term commitment. The advice centers on healing, strategic dating, setting standards, and embodying a secure, feminine energy that naturally attracts a committed masculine partner.
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- Men are less likely to chase and marry a woman who becomes overly attached early in the dating process.
- Women often get attached quickly, especially when a man says the right things or shows initial interest, before he has had sufficient time to demonstrate commitment.
- Allowing a man space and time to pursue and decide on marriage is essential; women should not rush the process by going 'all in' prematurely.
- Healing from past relationship trauma and employing dating strategies, like rotational dating, helps prevent premature attachment.
Getting attached too soon can lead men to pull away because it feels like too much pressure, hindering the natural development of a committed relationship.
The speaker, Tosh, shares how she didn't get attached to Coach B when they were dating long-distance, even when he expressed marriage intentions, because she had healed and allowed him space to show his commitment over time.
- Women should require a man's consistent effort and follow-through rather than trying to convince him to step up.
- Nagging, arguing, or pleading with a man to be consistent is ineffective and pushes him away; true change must be his idea.
- Setting clear standards and walking away when they are not met is more powerful than trying to change a man.
- Trying to convince or change a man often results in attracting unhealthy partners or settling for a convenient arrangement rather than a genuine relationship.
Trying to convince a man to be consistent signals a lack of self-worth and can lead to toxic cycles and situationships, whereas requiring consistency attracts a man who naturally wants to provide and protect.
Tosh explains how she told Coach B, 'I think you're amazing, but I don't want to waste your time, and I'm not going to waste my time anymore' when he wasn't following through on visiting her, instead of engaging in a long explanation or trying to fix him.
- Women who get engaged and married tend to be emotionally regulated and not easily triggered or anxious about their partner's actions.
- Anxious, overthinking, or disregulated energy pushes healthy masculine energy away, as it creates instability and a sense of needing to constantly manage the woman's emotions.
- A man's nervous system is thrown off by a woman's anxiety, making him hesitant to commit to someone he perceives as unable to control herself.
- Attracting a high-quality, committed man requires a woman to be healed, confident, and self-regulated, mirroring that same stable energy.
Emotional regulation is crucial because it demonstrates self-control and security, making a woman more attractive to a man seeking a stable, long-term partner.
The speakers contrast women who end up in situationships (anxious, triggered) with those who get married (detached, secure, confident), where the man is the one trying to prove himself.
- Instead of passively waiting, 'waiting on the Lord' involves actively preparing oneself and becoming visible to potential partners.
- Rotational dating, or dating multiple compatible individuals without intimacy, is a strategy to avoid premature attachment and assess potential partners effectively.
- Visibility means putting yourself in environments where your desired partner can see you, such as through online dating or social circles aligned with your goals.
- Preparation includes self-care, developing dating skills, and understanding a man's needs to become the type of woman he desires.
Active preparation and strategic visibility ensure that when the right person appears, you are ready and able to attract and sustain a healthy, committed relationship.
The example of Ruth and Boaz, and Queen Esther, illustrates how women became visible and prepared themselves to be chosen by their ideal partners, contrasting with passive waiting.
Key takeaways
- Avoid getting overly attached to a man too early in the dating process; allow him the space and time to pursue you and demonstrate commitment.
- Focus on requiring consistent actions and follow-through from a man, rather than trying to convince or change him.
- Maintain emotional regulation and avoid anxious or triggered behavior, as this creates instability and deters healthy masculine energy.
- Engage in strategic dating practices, such as rotational dating, to avoid premature attachment and make better choices about potential partners.
- True 'waiting on the Lord' involves active preparation and making yourself visible to your desired partner, not passive inaction.
- A woman's energy and emotional state directly influence the type of man she attracts; a healed and regulated woman attracts a healthy, committed partner.
- Avoid 'mothering' a man; instead, nurture and encourage him while allowing him the space to step into his masculine role.
Key terms
Feminine EnergyMasculine EnergySituationshipAttachment StyleNervous System RegulationRotational DatingHealthy Masculine EnergyProvider HusbandSelf-AbandonmentPolarity
Test your understanding
- What are the potential negative consequences of a woman getting too attached to a man early in a relationship?
- How does requiring consistency from a man differ from trying to convince him to change his behavior?
- Why is emotional regulation important for attracting and maintaining a relationship with a healthy masculine partner?
- What does 'waiting on the Lord' mean in the context of dating and relationships, according to the speakers?
- How can rotational dating help a woman avoid premature attachment and make better dating decisions?