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Men CHASE & Marry Women Like THIS (by former single mom x4) #feminineenergy #dating
Mia Adora🌹💍
Overview
This video discusses the qualities and behaviors that attract men and lead to marriage, differentiating between "wife energy" and "girlfriend/situationship energy." The speakers, a couple who coach women in feminine energy, emphasize that men are attracted to and marry women who are regulated, embody wife energy, and present a "challenge" through healthy boundaries and standards, rather than women who overgive or exhibit chaotic energy. They also touch on practical advice for online dating, attracting providers, and the importance of inner healing and self-regulation in relationships.
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- Men are attracted to and marry women who embody specific qualities, often referred to as 'wife energy.'
- The speakers have coached thousands of women through their 'Feminine Energy Academy,' leading to numerous engagements and marriages.
- The advice is applicable to women of all backgrounds, including single mothers.
- Many women unintentionally sabotage their relationships by making common mistakes, which this video aims to address.
Understanding the core principles of attracting a committed partner is crucial for women tired of unfulfilling relationships and ready for marriage.
A woman in the academy messaged them about going ring shopping, illustrating the success of their coaching.
- Wife energy is characterized by clear boundaries, defined timelines, and knowing what one wants in a relationship.
- Situationship or girlfriend energy often involves doing everything for a partner without established boundaries or commitment, leading to a lack of forward momentum.
- Women often mistake performing wifely duties (like cooking or intimacy) for embodying wife energy, which is about the structure and intention of the relationship.
- Fear of losing a man can lead women to overgive and not enforce boundaries, inadvertently training him to show up less than 100%.
Distinguishing between these energy types is fundamental to avoiding situationships and attracting a partner who is ready for marriage.
A woman who gets exclusive with a man, moves in, and sleeps with him without a marriage commitment is functioning in situationship energy, which can lead to him pulling away.
- A common mistake is becoming exclusive with a man who expresses interest in marriage, without establishing clear timelines or commitment.
- This often happens after some initial healing or attraction, leading women to believe 'this must be it.'
- By going exclusive and offering wifely privileges before marriage, women train men to show up at 70-80% instead of the desired 100%+, which can carry into marriage.
- The speaker shares a personal example of not settling for a partner who showed up at 70-80%, leading him to step up to 110%.
This pattern trains men to offer less commitment, setting a precedent for a less-than-ideal marriage.
The speaker's personal experience of setting a boundary with a man who was not yet showing up 100%, causing him to increase his commitment to attract her.
- Men are attracted to women who present a healthy challenge, not one filled with drama or attitude.
- A challenge involves having boundaries, standards, and waiting for key relationship milestones like intimacy or cohabitation.
- This healthy challenge can trigger a man's desire to solve problems and pursue, releasing hormones like vasopressin.
- Detaching and allowing a man space to figure things out is crucial; if he's the right one, he will rise to the occasion.
Healthy challenges encourage a man's masculine drive and commitment, ensuring he is truly invested before marriage.
The speaker and her husband dated long-distance and had periods where they didn't talk, which challenged him to figure out how to be with her.
- Decide you are a wife, not just a girlfriend, and embody that identity without trying to convince him.
- A wife says no to situationships and moving in without marriage, while a girlfriend might settle for less.
- Many women, especially those who are tired or have been through difficult relationships, seek 'fun' and settle for situationships, which can hinder their growth and readiness for a masculine partner.
- Getting involved with an unhealed partner can lead to frustration when you later heal and desire a committed, masculine man.
Adopting a wife identity and refusing to settle for less prevents getting stuck in unfulfilling relationships that delay marriage.
A woman who just left a marriage might seek 'fun' with a man, but this can lead to a situationship if she doesn't embody wife energy and set marriage-oriented boundaries.
- A regulated woman is calm, not easily triggered, and not anxious or overwhelmed.
- She can detach from outcomes and doesn't fear loss, knowing she can walk away if necessary.
- Chaos and constant emotional turmoil push men away; a regulated woman brings peace and stability.
- Regulation is evident in all areas of life, not just romantic relationships, and involves healthy emotional processing rather than holding things in or relying on a partner as a therapist.
Emotional regulation is a key trait that attracts high-quality men and fosters stable, peaceful relationships.
The speaker's husband observed her calm and processed responses, even with her children, as indicators of her regulation.
- Men don't need to be told what boundaries are; healthy men inherently respect them.
- Giving a man a 'playbook' of your boundaries can lead him to test those limits.
- When a man pulls away, allow him space to process; chasing him or overanalyzing is counterproductive.
- Healing attachment styles and nervous system regulation are crucial for breaking negative relationship patterns and attracting the right partner.
These practical strategies and the emphasis on inner work are essential for navigating modern dating and building lasting relationships.
If a man asks about your boundaries, it might be disingenuous, as healthy men understand basic respect without explicit instruction.
Key takeaways
- Men are drawn to women who embody 'wife energy,' characterized by clear boundaries, standards, and a defined vision for the relationship.
- Avoid situationships and girlfriend energy by refusing to offer wifely privileges (like exclusivity or cohabitation) before marriage.
- A healthy 'challenge' for a man involves maintaining your standards and boundaries, encouraging him to pursue and solve problems to be with you.
- Emotional regulation and detachment are vital; a woman who is calm, not easily triggered, and can walk away from a bad situation is highly attractive.
- Don't try to change or convince a man; focus on embodying the desired feminine energy and allowing him to step up or fall away.
- Healing past wounds, attachment styles, and regulating your nervous system are foundational for attracting and sustaining a healthy, committed relationship.
- When a man pulls away, allow him space to process; chasing him or overanalyzing his actions is a sign of your own unhealed patterns.
- Attracting a provider or wealthy man starts with becoming the type of woman such a man would want to partner with.
Key terms
Feminine EnergyWife EnergyGirlfriend EnergySituationshipBoundariesTimelinesRegulationDetachmentMasculine EnergyProvider EnergyAttachment StyleNervous System Healing
Test your understanding
- What is the core difference between 'wife energy' and 'situationship energy' in dating?
- How can a woman 'challenge' a man in a healthy way that encourages commitment?
- Why is emotional regulation important for attracting and maintaining a relationship with a high-quality man?
- What is the significance of not going exclusive too soon in a relationship, and how does it train a man's behavior?
- How does a woman's own healing and self-regulation impact the type of partner she attracts and the health of her relationships?